Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Everyone Deserves Support

I'm sure everyone has heard the latest news about Demi Lovato. To be perfectly honest, I don't know every little detail because I don't pay attention to gossip but there are some things I want to say.

It seems like people often forget that no matter who you are or what you do, whether you work the register at Wal Mart making minimum wage or you're a singer slash actress making millions, you are still human. No matter what you look like, everyone has insecurities. No matter how old you are, you still have problems. This past weekend Demi Lovato cancelled her international tour to seek help for physical and emotional distress. Many people are saying she's been dealing with an eating disorder and self injury. I think that right now, what she needs is to get the help she needs and the support from everyone. To be honest, I'm not a fan at all. I don't watch her show and I don't listen to her music. However, that doesn't mean that she doesn't deserve my support.

When people forget that everyone is human, they forget that everyone needs and deserves love and support. Just because you aren't particularly fond of someone doesn't mean you shouldn't treat them well. Even if you don't like someone, you don't necessarily have to say bad things about them. My outlook on celebrities is that I can say I don't like their voice, don't like their music, don't like their show, don't like the movies, but I can't say I don't like them as a person until I know them. I will give everyone the respect that they have earned and deserve.

Right now, I am showing my love and support for Demi Lovato along with anyone else who has suffered or suffers from similar problems. You are beautiful and no matter what anyone may say. You are an excellent, talented, beautiful young woman. Remember that no matter what some ridiculous social standards may say, you are perfectly imperfect and that's what makes you the special person you are. I love you, and many other people love you so don't ever forget that.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Too Sexual or Not Sexual Enough?

There seems to be a very thin line between women and their sexuality. Every day girls are attacked by contradicting images and words. Growing up, you're told you must save your virginity for marriage, dress modestly, and not to speak of "inappropriate" things. Then you turn on the TV, open a magazine, or even walk out of your own house, and you are blasted with images of women scantily dressed, having sex, or just talking about it. These images tell you that you have to be sexy to have self worth; if you're sexy people will like you. But wait, if you follow that image and you are sexy, you're a slut. Now no one will like you. How do you choose? When is it okay to be sexual and when isn't it?
I recently saw a commercial for lingerie football. Basically, it's a bunch of "hot" women running around playing tackle football in their underwear. At first I was appalled. Why is it that women don't get to play football normally in the league and often at most high schools but they get the chance only when they're doing it half naked? You don't see men playing football in their underwear, so why do you see women? Isn't that exploitation? Then, I realized that it's their choice. If they feel confident in their sexuality and want to play football in their lingerie, that's okay, they have the right. They are people, they are women, and they can do what they want with their bodies.
I saw something similar but had a totally different reaction. Recently Dianna Agron, Lea Michele, and Cory Monteith, all a part of the cast of Glee, did a
photoshoot for GQ. Lea and Dianna are both in little clothes posing very sexually, showing off their lingerie. When I saw the pictures, I loved them. I thought the photoshoot looked great and I was proud of them for not being afraid to show their sexual sides though they might get a bad response. And that's what happened. Already people are questioning whether or not the photoshoot was appropriate. Videos from the shoot showed them having lots of fun sexing it up for the pictures, so it's okay right? They're confident in their sexuality and they can do what they want with their bodies. Why did I get a totally different response to something so similar? Once again, where is the line of how sexual women can be?

When is it okay for a woman to be a sexual being without it being degrading towards the woman body? It's difficult to know. It seems that you may be able to name a time or place, but there's still going to be another situation that contradicts it. Where does a woman stand in this overly sexual society and when is it okay for her to do what she wants with her body without someone telling her she shouldn't? No matter what way you go, there's always going to be somone saying it's wrong. If you dress modestly and wait to have sex, you're a prude. If you show your more sexual side, you're a slut. Why can't a woman just have both?

Monday, October 18, 2010

Not So Typical Teenage Girl

To put it as simply as possible, I am a girl. A teenage girl to be a bit more precise. And that is where I stop. When hearing about a teenage girl, people will often make assumptions. You may assume that all I do is giggle and read Twilight, or that I am immature, or that I don't know anything about the real world. You know what happens when you assume though, right?

Basically, I am writing this blog to break out of that stereotype. I am not your typical teenage girl. If anything, I'm almost nothing like your typical teenage girl. I am gaining my independence as a women and I am trying to educate myself on the world, culture, and feminism. I can't really guarentee what this blog will be about. Mostly, it will probably be about me and what I learn and observe. This blog is the pot in which I grow, the world is the sun that gives me the energy. I'm a very opinionated person though, so if that's not what you're into, I give you fair warning to leave. This is a no sensor zone.